Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Objectifying women

We have come so fare form how women and men are treated as objects in the work place.  I have recently come across several situations where young women are being reduced to having to dress a certain way in order to have a job.  I do agree that we have to have some professionalism and want to take care of how you look further more we need appreciate ourselves.  Young girls are very impressionable because they are still trying to figure out who they are even in their early 20's.When a girl goes to the club and get a business card handed to her to work at a place like Hooters, Moxie's, and Earls because she has the right body type for their so call image.  I gut that you need to be attractive to bring customer, however I do not agree with if a girl has the "right body type" that this is reason they should get hired.  It seems it is mostly men that own these establishments and I will have to say that these men are objectifying these women that want to make money by through severs people in the food industry and to earn tips based on her costumer service skills.   The manager will tell you what you can and can not ware to work which is far however when a person has a medical condition that indicates that they can not ware stiletto heals because of bad knees they should be made to accommodate that person.  What girl goes out clubbing and wares stiletto heals the whole time and dressing in a tight miny skirt.  Yes there are girls out there that do dress that way to accurate men however they have issues of their own and maybe they are the girls wanting to work in those places then go for it.  I do not agree with making young women dress like a prostitutes in order to have a certain image and when they do not have a short, or tight enough skirt or shirt that is reveling.

The insecurity of women is so high and the managers of these places do not understand the long term affect of this kind of objectifying women to dress a certain way.  I can almost gerentee that some of the girls that work at these establishments could most likely have issues with their body which intern makes issues with their self esteem.   The women in the service industry need to be heard and respected for who they are as a person and not for what they look like on the outside.   I also think that women in these establishments are even seen as objects by the coworkers because the guy may think that the girl is wanting to hook up with but in all reality its just a job to her.  this can lead to dangerous situations for the women.

Sunday, July 8, 2012

Another years has come and gone

Where did 2008 go? As I started writing in a few Christmas Cards this year I started writing a novel in them letting them know what I have been doing this past year. Its funny the more I started to write the more I started to remember. Which got me thinking that I didn't write down any of my grand adventures.

Well this year has had lots of changes starting with me quitting my decor job because my boss had way too much expectations of me. Where clearing the Job requires two to three and even four people to carrying the job off right. You know me I need to get the Job done right because I am a neat freak. Don't get me wrong I enjoyed see the finished product of the decor and the ideas that were amazing. Like the star trek enterprise. She had some one make a replica of the ship.

Christmas time was such a hand full I say if never had to decorate or carry another Christmas tree again in my life I think I would be rather happy with that. I got a lot of ideas for my wedding that I would love to create or have.

During this time I had some potential prospects of possible boys to date. One of them was actually going to come to Edmonton and hang out for about a week. We would talk on the phone all night you could say and have really good conversations. Unfortunately this match was not in the cards. I think he is a great person but he was just not for me. I did how ever lean something about myself and what I would like to see in a potential boy to husband.

Well for 8 months after quitting my job, I went back to work with Catholic Social Services as a replacement worker. I found out that I had reached the 5 years mark in May apparently. They seem to think I am a lifer. I just laugh and say nope. I work as a replacement work in a few of the home taking shifts because staff was sick, on leave or vacations. I worked at one particular house constantly. I Loved working in this home because of the staff, they all tried to get me to come on as a full time worker. I was wanting the Monday to Friday dream job only working during the day. Working for those homes was great I got in touch with some old clients I had worked with and made some new bonds with the new ones that come in. I met some great staff and I am helping in Planning her wedding and I am also in the bridal party as well. I am so excited for her and her fiancee. Speaking of weddings, we have this person called Nurse Linda that comes in with fairy cards. Now to me fairy cards are like taro cards they periodic the future. Well I don't believe in them I just do this to amuse Nurse Linda. So I pick one day and I get the Marriage card and I start to laugh because the card said. You will have someone close to you get married soon and I will meet my future companion at this wedding. Also that your ideas of marriage needs to change. I just laugh and think its so funny, mean while every day this child that I work with reminds me of my so call commitment issues I have with being married.  I just pay no attention to it and move on with my day because I know this particular child is just trying to get a rise out of me. How ever I was working NON stop, I would work any were between 100 hours every two and half weeks to 155 hours every two and half weeks. Yes very crazy I know.  What made this even more funny was the fact that my Brother was getting married this summer and I would be attending this wedding.  Well I knew darn well that I would not be finding my future husband there because of my brothers life style does not fit well with mine.  

During this time I was consonantly looking for jobs that would offer me my dream job. I had applied for a Social worker position but never got the job. I figured it was because I hadn't have experience working in a office doing admin stuff. I have always been kinda afraid of those kinds of jobs because of my struggles with spelling and remembering things. I say I wanted this dream job and Low and behold I found it. Late in the summer I had applied for a job at Be My Parents. Its funny how this happens because I was on the computer and I typed in Foster care, adoptions and they popped up on my Google search. So I applied not thinking I would get the job. Low and behold i got the job and started in September.

Now don't get me wrong about all the work I was doing. Work alcoholic yes but I did how ever take some time for my self and friends. I took a trip to Utah Salt Lake and then to San Fransisco. I also got to go to Waterton, Cardston, and Buffalo head smashed with a friend.

Colleen and I drove from Edmonton Alberta to Utah to attend Conference. Is is a conference that happens twice a year and I had never been there and always wanted to do. Colleen wanted to go because she was a new member of the church and really wanted to see Salt Lake and go to San Fransisco. I loved to Drive at night so we left Edmonton around 6pm and got to Salt Lake the next day at 12 noon. The things that kept me going were energy drinks and my new car stereo that players my Ipod.

In Salt lake we stayed at my Best-est Best friend Sherry. I haven't been to see her in years but we are like sister. She is a photographer and had to do a wedding shoot not fair off from Temple square the night we arrived. Before that Me and Colleen walked around Temple square enjoy the wonderful spirit that is felt there and walking through the visitors center. This was Colleens first time to Utah because she had just became a member to the church.  I wanted to give her the best experience as possible because I know how I felt when I want down to Temple square for the first time.  We had to reasons to head to Utah first was conference and then head to San Fransisco

Colleen, Sherry and My self traveled to San Fransisco as a girls weekend way with not boys.  We left right after Conference and had little stops along the way.  One of the places we stopped at was the Salt Flats, which was amazingly bright. The pictures were taken mostly by my good friend and I have some but can not fingure out who took what.

I drove for 12 hours state and when we got there it was in the middle of the night and had to search for the hotel I booked.  I crashed because I was the only one driving because none of the other people in the car either could not drive at night or did not have a drivers license. 

The activities that was the most exciting and adventurous was when we went to the Golden Gate Bring because we went driving round and found the beach that most post cards shot from for San Fransisco.  We were also able to get our feet wet. 

 We were also able to hang out at fishermen wharf and take our adventures to the ALCATRAZ were we took pictures of us being prisoners just like on Prison Break.  Mostly because Sherry was obsessed about Prison Break.  We watch the whole first season on the way to San Fransisco.


I had decided to down south in Alberta with a friend we stoppted in several placese. This trip was all about just getting way and doing a road trip.   I wanted to work on my photography and also because it was a place I had not gone too and hear so much about those places. 

 Bufflelo head smashed in, was cool to see and learn about the buffelo that rome here also about the aboringinal poeple and their beautiful culture.


Waterton and the Rock river were amazing,  I can not wait to go back to those places.  It reminds me of BC with the mountines and the water Home sweet home to me.

The job I started in Setpember was BE My Parents, this was my dream job because I had my own clients, office and important meetings to attend.  This job working with people that wanted to adopt, or foster youth / children that were in care.  I was able to give a clear indication as to what kind of children peopel were accaully getting and also I could get them to think about if adoption or fostering this was really for them.  I find that majorty of people that would want to foster are just thinking about the money and not about the youth that would becoming into the home.  I know that some family are caring and do have a supportive inviroment but we do not hear so much about those family mostly about the ones that fail. 

Moving once a gain for the 12 time since I have lived in Edmonton. Friends telling me she started a new page in her address book because I have moved so much.  For one month I stayed with a dear friend of mine, and then moved into the Rivervally Ward in Edmonton.  This ward is great because I already knew some people and I felt that this was the right ward for me to become aquantied with being in a Family Ward as I was single and not married. 

Getting a new Carma Canon 40 D digital to start my photography class that is through New York Institute of Photography. Because I wanted to improve my photography skill and to one day have my own studio in my house to take portraits.  

Moving into a family ward from a single adult ward. the calling I got was in the primary working with an idividual that has autism.  This family was great to work with and I was able to have the parent s enjoy church while their daughter was in primary.  I was then placed with another little guy that has so much personality and love.  I did not last long in primary because I was not comfortable teaching in church because I am not confident in the scriptures.

My roommate and I have a mutural friend that we wanted to give her a christmas present too. however what do you give someone that has every thing.  So we came up with looking after all of her grandchildren so that the adults could go out for dinner and have a setion at the temple as a family.  We baby sat  11 childern from the ages 3-11 it was so much fun.  The kids were able to make a craft to put on the christmas tree for their Nana and Papa.  Wow what a year 2008

Friday, July 6, 2012

Epipheny always on the rise for me

As I continue my education I am constantly reminded about how others in the world are treated unfairly.  In some countries they do not have proper shelter, food, clean running water, equal rights, freedom of speech, or even freedom of spirituality.  I realized that globalization has defiled our world but has also benefited developing economies.  It would seem that people in developing countries want third world countries to have the same opportunities they have.  However, it comes with a prices through rights, environmental issues, and health concerns.  The devolving countries want their economy to grow and do so by having cheap labor (sweat shops), lower standers for environmental wast and poor health care.  What I find so profound is that so many of this people living in places with turmoil they have such gratitude for even the smallest amount of services that is given to them.  After celebrating our Nations Birthday it is was wonderful, to be reminded about how much gratitude I have for living in this country and in my life. There are many things people are grateful for like food, shelter, running water, spirituality, and freedom. Gratitude is an interesting word that has profound meaning for each individual.  Gratitude stems from the tender Mercer of God that are given to us everyday.  Through out the world right now there are wars, tribulations, or sacrifices in which people are trying to achieve a glimpse of freedom.  I sometimes feel so helpless because the world is so big and how is one person suppose to make a difference.  To be able to be freely educated regardless of gender is so powerful because it indicates that women are not just a pretty face but they have thoughts and ideas that are useful to societies. The power that women have to vote is profound due to that women are equal to men and that women should have a say in how the world is run.  The world now was not always this way, I would hope the world never heads backward but improve on how we communicate with others.

To know how the world works is important because we can then understand how to support others in the world.  However we do not want to force people to change it has to be by there choice.   From my point of view it would seem that governments, sometimes go into helping a country however they have no idea how to infect change in a positive way.